In what can only be described as a very surprising and unanticipated departure from my sexy, stimulating real estate market updates, I’m going to put on my woo-woo pants and talk a little bit about feelings and personal mindset.
Yes, this robot has feelings. Many more have come to the surface as a dad, but yes, I’ve got feelings.
In an industry and world where I am often told no, I have to work my ass off to develop the right frame of mind to remain continuously and staunchly optimistic. The world of optimism, love and abundance is my choice.
It’s not always easy. I have not been around for long but I have learned a thing or two. One thing I’ve learned is that as humans, we tend to feel the negative much more than the positive. I guess I should say – we tend to hang on to the negative much more than the positive. We remember the pain, stress, and anxiety of the bad times much more than the highs of the good times. We are often defined by a lot of the pain we have gone through, the bad decisions we’ve made, and the wrong turns we’ve taken. We tend to get stuck up behind limiting beliefs, comfort zones, and painful memories.
So that we can move into a more positive, optimistic mindset, we can all work on ways to be mindful of all the good in our lives. This goes beyond being grateful for what we have. We can all anchor the good feelings we feel, remember the rush of energy we feel after a job well done, or secure those fleeting moments of absolute joy that sometimes seem so hard to come by. Small victories are still victories. Small steps still mean you’re moving forward.
My anchor: Pineapple Dum Dums
It may sound crazy, but pineapple dum-dums always remind me to anchor my victories and cherish my wins, no matter how small or seemingly inconsequential. Here’s how:
When I started my real estate career in August of 2010, closings were very tough to come by. Partially due to the economy being awful at the time and partially because I was new, inexperienced and not particularly great at my job yet. As I found my voice, made lasting connections and got my feet under me, things started to pick up and closings happened a bit more regularly. But, I realized as soon as I had a closing, I was quick to find the next client to work with and the next transaction to handle. I wasn’t being mindful about my wins, I wasn’t anchoring the good stuff, and I when things got tough, I only had hustle, stress and anxiety to fall back on.
It all changed the day I went to the bank to deposit a commission check. I picked up a pineapple dum dum on my way out. It was my very (very, very, very) small reward for the hard work I put in helping a client succeed. In a couple of weeks, I was in again to deposit rent checks from my rentals. I made a point to get another pineapple dum dum. This time, however, I made sure to walk a little slower. I made a point to listen to what song was being played in the bank (John Cougar Mellencamp’s Hurts So Good). I was mindful of the weather that day. I was quick with a smile to the teller. I took more time filling out the deposit slip – slowly and deliberately. All of these small, mindful opportunities helped me to anchor my win, my feeling of success. This is the attitude of gratitude. Granted, it was just depositing some checks. But, the win was the fact that I had worked hard, made connections, took a risk, and now, it was paying off. That’s a win.
Your wins don’t have to be financial, most aren’t. Wins come every time you try something new, push yourself a little bit further, or accomplish something that seemed out of reach. When you win, by being consciously and deliberately attentive to the small details of your win, you’ll always be able to draw on your anchored memories when you’re feeling inevitably defeated in the future. You can immediately fend of the bad feels with a positive, anchored thought, act or totem. Celebrate the damn wins.
Some folks will go to dinner to celebrate a win, while others only need a high-five or a hug. Have a beer! Dance a dance! Sing until you’re hoarse. Develop an anchoring routine and you’ll never forget what it means to win. No matter your routine, be conscious and mindful of every single detail. The good stuff will continue.
About the Author: Jared Reimer is a native Coloradoan and an Associate Broker at Elevations Real Estate in Old Town Fort Collins. He’s a community advocate, business champion, blogger, leader, tireless volunteer, innovator, thinker and expert on all things real estate in Fort Collins and surrounding Northern Colorado. You’re likely to find Jared spending quality time outside with his wife, Kacie, and young son, Hudson, or sharing a beer or two with a friend throughout Fort Collins. Call or text Jared at 970.222.1049 or email him at Jared@TheCraftBroker.com